Jellybeans

There's a saying you may have heard "If you put a jellybean in a jar for every time you had sex with you partner before you got married, and then took one out every time you had sex after you were married you would never empty the jar". I believe there is some wisdom to this random saying, even if its merely the vague point of it. I however would change it slightly replacing the married part to before and after having children.

Sexual intimacy and the differences between men and woman is a vast topic, but one I have always enjoyed exploring, and so I scan the articles and watch the documentaries and engage in interesting conversation with both female and male friends, to get the juice on exactly what makes us tick in the bedroom. Don't worry this isn't going to be a post about 10 tips for a night of passion...

How do I approach this delicately.... ok well I cant so I am just going to put it out there so I can get on topic and say what I want to say. When you have kids or even after conception, a couples sex life enters a new phase. Now i know that there is a small percentage of woman that get horny as hell when they are pregnant but males if you are reading this that percentage is only 15% so don't get your hopes up.

Now every individual couple is different but there are some common issues that we tend to go through in our relationships, which is reassuring as we can feel like they are normal, natural and fixable if we feel we are not alone.

One of these issues is sex or lack there of after baby comes along. Here are some common complaints from both sides:

Female: "I have a little being that is attached to me like a koala all day, sucking the life out of my boobs and when I get my body to myself, I dont feel like sharing it!"
"When my head hits the pillow at night sleep is my only goal."
I just dont feel very sexy at the moment, my stomach is like a jelly pit."
"Am I always going to feel under this much pressure to put out??"

Male: " I just want to enjoy some intimate time without a beach ball being between us"
"I'm so glad to have you back to normal. Its not like the last nine months haven't been a bit dry, cant we make up for lost time?"
"Its not all about the baby I am still here you know."
"Is this the way its always going to be??"

So where do you go from here? Hey no magic spell to recharge that libido sorry ladies (and gentleman) but I can say from my interest in this topic that its commonly said, it just takes time and hypothetically I can give a big wink wink nudge nudge to this being right on the money.

Babies do bring couples together but they can also keep couples apart. The best thing you can do is be realistic, patient and understanding to work through it.

My Home D Pregnancy

Things have improved, I now feel this pregnancy is more of a stint on home detention than death row. Emotionally I have felt very unstable much like teetering on the edge of a cliff in high heel shoes.

I have wanted to post on my blog a few times but it would have made for very negative and sarcastic stories on the joys of motherhood and being a woman. I knew once I was out of this funk I would regret writing them, so I bit my tounge. I really am an upbeat person, honest I am!

So at the moment with just a dry reach here and there I am beginning to join the land of the living. I knew things were picking up when I wore a bra for the first time in a month yesterday, and took the time to brush my teeth before bed, both of which have required more energy than I have had available in quite some time.

I wouldn't say I am out of the woods yet, the highlights of my day include banana's on toast and a warm bed, oh and sometimes a swig of coke at three in the morning, I know disgusting huh, but whatever I gotta do to survive honey!